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When I look back now to pre-transition sex, it all makes a lot more sense than it seemed to at the time. Even when in loving relationships, I felt an uneasy sense of guilt, perhaps shame, straight after achieving orgasm. Sex after bottom surgery changed that. My parents conservative with a big and a small c values and views extended to racism, homophobia and sexism.

Transphobia would have been added to the list but it was not a word in common usage back then. I assume that was a big reason for my being uncomfortable with the act of sex. During transition but before lower surgery, sex was more comfortable, in that I was a straight woman having sex. Sexual pleasure was never a factor in my decision around surgery. My surgeon told me I would probably be able to climax, and he was right.

But I had no option, mentally, to not go ahead. Although there were occasional times that I thought I might not go ahead with lower surgery, it was more from the highly unlikely fear of dying on the operating table and leaving behind a bereft young family- than about anything else. I knew I needed surgery for me to feel I was as complete a woman as I could be.

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If I was ever to get a boyfriend after surgery then that was of secondary importance, and whether I went on to have a happy sex life was of low importance to me at the time. My experiences are probably similar to many in the same position.

I transitioned socially in my 30s, medically in my 40s. When I went for lower surgery, I would not have considered any other option than having it done on the NHS, on grounds of the costs for private surgery. Also, I was prepared to wait the three years required. A couple of friends had gone to Thailand to Dr Suporn Watanyusaku who was considered the world leader in the field at that time for their lower surgery and other surgeries too whilst they were there.

I also wanted to consider my economic future. Post-surgeryI was able to have conventional, vanilla straight sex. That was much better, my head felt in the right place, as it were.

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Although, as my partners are usually between 35 and 60 years old, their own cis male issues have also brought with them their own challenges. The hardest part for me is always meeting someone who wants a relationship; and who I like enough too. I was probably able to have sex a few months after surgery but it took a few years to find anyone I wanted to have sex with.

Dilating was fine, but as a clinical necessity. Self-pleasuring was possible after a few months for me but I have had a low sex drive all my adult life before and after surgery. Sex seems overrated to me. I have always got more pleasure from intelligent conversation and connecting with someone that way, than in having animalistic sex.

I felt complete though and that in itself gave me another huge boost of self belief and confidence, which was the most important outcome of surgery for me. Meeting a potential partner is difficult, I wait until the right moment or so before I tell them about my trans past.

It might happen on the first, second or third date, but always before anything physical occurs. Sometimes the subject comes up or you see a way to discuss it sooner than planned. For instance, they might have told you about their divorce or some health issue and then you can dive in with your own story. I have a 30 second talk that I rush through, reassuring them it was in my past, that everything works fine now, no-one ever realises, to reassure them and to tell them to feel free to ask me anything they like, because they will have questions.

Then I sit back and see where the chat goes next. We can refer you for private surgery. I would only go on a date in the first place with a guy who I think is quite likely to be ok with it. The handful of relationships I have had have obviously been ok with it.

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Everything does work ok though, with the right connection with a nice person, I enjoy being in relationships. The physical side works. In blunt terms, I can get turned on and stimulated very easily again, with the right person, as I did once upon a time in my twenties. Intercourse is sometimes a little painful and I am sure would be easier if I were cis, but satisfaction is achieved all round, even more so if it is a loving relationship.

Relationships and a sex life need nurturing for both people to be happy, whatever stage of life you are at; whether you consider yourself as fully transitioned, as transitioned as you are ever going to be or whether you have a longer journey ahead. I would sum it up as being at a stage in life, even a year or so past surgery, where everything in my garden became rosy for me, everything worked, physically and mentally I was happy.

But my love life, sex life, friendships, just like the flowers and plants in my garden, still need love, attention, food and water, or they wilt and die. Charlotte Morgan, is a GenderGP community member.

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Find out more about sex and intimacy as a transgender person, in our set of special articles on trans sex here. Not condescending and shaming at all. Very open and insightful. Your awesome,I agree that intelligent conversation goes a long ways. Everything else comes after. I feel stuck in a simular way its nice to know someone else has went through this.

Once i begin transition my family will surely no longer love me. Tweets by GenderGP. Our Help Centre. CW: Sex. This article is part of our series on trans sex education, and contains explicit sexual content about sex after bottom surgery. I am more interested in companionship than sex, although both would be nice!

My ideal would be a walk on a Sunday, a cuddle and a film over a bottle of wine. One special person to share my innermost thoughts, and other day-to-day stuff with. Anonymous on 5th January at am.

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